Posted on April 13, 2015
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There is a DBT concept or belief that says: Everyone is doing the best they can in the moment. I remember taking the DBT course and hearing this core belief for the first time. I bristled. I raised my hand. I asked for one…
Category: abuse in families, DBT, relationships, therapyTags: abusive behavior in relationships, DBT concepts, Dr. David Schnarch, manipulation in relationships, marital sadism, mind-mapping, self-advocacy, theory of mind
Posted on April 5, 2015
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This is the title of a book I just started reading by Lundy Bancroft, a well-known therapist who specializes in working with women in domestic violence and/or abusive relationships. The title didn’t thrill me. It scared me, but the premise intrigued me. How do…
Category: abuse in families, domestic violence, Healing, marriage, Moving Forward, relationships, therapy, Women's IssuesTags: abusive behavior in relationships, expectations in relationships, expecting too little in relationships, Lundy Bancroft, minimum requirements for a healthy relationship, qualities of a healthy relationship, Should I Stay or Should I Go
Posted on April 2, 2015
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I had Tuesday Therapy last week as usual but not this week. This week is Spring Break, and I was with my family in a cabin in the woods on the North Shore of Lake Superior. Duh duh duuuuuuuh…(my husband only stayed a day…
Category: abuse in families, emotional abuse, Healing, marriage, Moving Forward, relationships, therapy, TruthTags: anger, domestic abuse, healing process, telling the truth in relationships, therapy
Posted on March 23, 2015
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A friend commented on my prolific blog writing lately. I write more when I’m processing something. I have another blog. Were I dealing with an exacerbation in symptoms in one of my daughters I would be posting there. Some of the content here could…
Category: anxiety, disorders, mental health, relationships, therapyTags: anxiety and the brain, anxiety disorders, Borderline Personality Disorder, cognitive empathy, emotional empathy, narcissism, narcissistic supply, personality disorders, theory of mind, therapy
Posted on March 22, 2015
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I am trying to put meaning to my circumstances as they intensify, and they are intensifying. Every day is an adventure and not a good one. I don’t know what’s going to happen next with my husband, and each of my daughters has had…
Category: abuse in families, encouragement, Moving Forward, relationships, therapy, Truth, Women's IssuesTags: applying meaning to suffering, differentiation, encouragement, preventing parental alienation, self-care, therapy, truth, women's identities
Posted on March 19, 2015
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Tuesday is therapy day for me. I’m supposed to have a fifty minute session. I had a two-hour session. In fact, my prior sessions were about ninety minutes each. My therapist just lets them go on and on. He then looks at the clock…
Category: domestic violence, emotional abuse, marriage, mental health, relationships, therapy, TruthTags: abuse in relationships, domestic abuse, radical acceptance, telling the truth in relationships, therapy, third-party credibility, ultimatums in relationships
Posted on March 16, 2015
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I have been asked to write something about healing. Personal healing. How do we heal? I find that interesting seeing as how I’m in the middle of something of a healing crisis. I sat down a few months ago to try to write something. Simply…
Category: abuse in families, co-dependency, domestic violence, emotional abuse, Faith, Healing, mental health, relationships, therapy, Truth, Women's IssuesTags: abuse in families, boundaries, Christianity and domestic violence statistics, co-dependency, enabling abuse, narrative approach, Truth for healing, victim blaming