Category: relationships

Applying Meaning

I am trying to put meaning to my circumstances as they intensify, and they are intensifying.  Every day is an adventure and not a good one.  I don’t know what’s going to happen next with my husband, and each of my daughters has had…

Third-Party Credibility

Tuesday is therapy day for me.  I’m supposed to have a fifty minute session.  I had a two-hour session.  In fact, my prior sessions were about ninety minutes each.  My therapist just lets them go on and on.  He then looks at the clock…

The First Step in Healing

I have been asked to write something about healing.  Personal healing.  How do we heal? I find that interesting seeing as how I’m in the middle of something of a healing crisis. I sat down a few months ago to try to write something.  Simply…

The Four Elements of Asshole Behavior

I saw my therapist for the second time yesterday, and we went over the four basic concepts that explain a person’s behavior: skills deficit emotions thoughts and beliefs contingency In the context of my marriage, I am attempting to lay down a history which is,…

Magical Thinking

I have learned something about getting on with life.  There’s no easy way to do it, and there’s no good time to do it.  What’s more, there is absolutely no pain-free way to do it either.  Hollywood has played a bigger role in our…

The Three Kinds of Forgiveness

We are right in the middle of the holiday season.  Hanukkah is here.  Christmas Eve is the day after tomorrow.  Kwanzaa begins on Friday.  These are holidays that involve gathering with communities and families.  Because of that, the holiday season can be a much…

An Early Morning Thought

This isn’t a post written in any sort of academic style wherein I cite important sources.  It may not be empowering in any way, but it will be truthful. My husband has been gone since Sunday.  Away on business.  I looked forward to his…

A Plea

Somewhere in the annals of this blog I’m sure I’ve posted on the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation.  I feel quite certain that most people who know me have heard me yammer on about that, and yet a plethora of Christians and even non-Christians…

Self-Validation and Recovery of the Self

Circumstances never wait for us to be ready.  Some circumstances happen suddenly, and some, looking back, have been simmering for a long time.  It’s not a surprise when they boil over and make a mess.  Why do we then feel surprised? Is it denial?…

Abandoning the Self

I live in Minnesota.  I overheard someone say once that we work for our seasons.  That’s an oddly funny thing to say, but, if you live here, then you’ll understand the meaning in that sentiment. As a seasonal change approaches, the current weather patterns…