Category: relationships

DBT 101

I’ve stated that my daughter and I started a 25-week Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills group.  There are five other teens in the group with their parents so it’s not a big group.  Most of the kids seem to struggle with “target” behaviors on… Continue Reading “DBT 101”

Remembering A Life Well-Lived

A few years ago I was privileged to spend time in the English countryside in the springtime.  Honestly, it was like being dropped into a Beatrix Potter story except that she’s from the Lake District, and I was in Devon.  If there is a… Continue Reading “Remembering A Life Well-Lived”

A False Perception of Self

I’m finally getting around to writing a follow-up post to Breaking The Mold.  What are our options if we have confused our personae for our authentic identity? More than that, what if we can’t tell the difference and feel trapped in some sort of… Continue Reading “A False Perception of Self”

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook

As the title of this post might imply, I am now in possession of a workbook.  I subscribe to Psychology Today, and September’s issue did a spread on Borderline Personality Disorder called “The Kings and Queens of Chaos”.  The article on BPD was okay.  It’s… Continue Reading “The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook”

The Professional Victim

We’ve all met one.  No matter how much energy you pour into the relationship, be it professional, friendly, or familial, you somehow end up being the bad guy.  It’s your fault! There wasn’t a problem until you pointed out the problem, therefore, YOU are… Continue Reading “The Professional Victim”

speak.

I wanted to say something about speaking the truth. I have often found myself in conversations with people discussing personal circumstances that are gridlocked.  Marriages are in turmoil.  People feel unheard, invisible, and helpless.  I’ve been in that situation.  Or, perhaps it’s something familial.… Continue Reading “speak.”

Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part II: The All-Good Child

I finally decided to stop fooling around and powered through Christine Lawson’s book Understanding The Borderline Mother.  I have some odd ability to quickly absorb books like this.  I read 200 pages in three hours.  I feel raw after reading it, and the only… Continue Reading “Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part II: The All-Good Child”

Safe People

After my last post, I wanted to pause and discuss the idea of a safe person and what that means using Drs. Cloud and Townsend’s book Safe People.  On their website, Cloud and Townsend ask the question: What are safe people? This is a… Continue Reading “Safe People”

Living with The Tides

When I was 22 years-old, I attended l’Université Paul Valéry in Montpellier, France.  Montpellier is a city in southern France, west of Marseilles, quite near the Mediterranean Sea.  Paul Valéry is one of the oldest universities in Europe. Montpellier is renowned the world over… Continue Reading “Living with The Tides”