Tag: Borderline Personality Disorder

The Borderline Church

It is not my intent to offend people by writing my observations.  I’m not trying to be provocative.  I am, however, going to point out a dynamic that has been swirling about church culture for as long as I’ve been privy to it.  It’s…

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook

As the title of this post might imply, I am now in possession of a workbook.  I subscribe to Psychology Today, and September’s issue did a spread on Borderline Personality Disorder called “The Kings and Queens of Chaos”.  The article on BPD was okay.  It’s…

The God Card

An aptly named post, I think, as it’s beginning to feel like a soap opera over here.  I just need a guy named Dirk to move in next door, and my neighbors across the street to start throwing down outside.  But, hey, we did…

speak.

I wanted to say something about speaking the truth. I have often found myself in conversations with people discussing personal circumstances that are gridlocked.  Marriages are in turmoil.  People feel unheard, invisible, and helpless.  I’ve been in that situation.  Or, perhaps it’s something familial….

How To Recognize A Mindf*ck

If it weren’t in such bad taste, I would post my mother’s latest letter and use it as an object lesson in “How To Recognize A Mindfuck”.  Excuse my language, but there’s no other way to put it.  Her entire letter was an exercise in gaslighting.  I’m…

Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part III: The No-Good Child

As promised, here is the other side of the coin regarding “Make-Believe Children”–the no-good child.  Yesterday, I wrote a rather lengthy post describing the all-good child, and I found it to be a rather educational and somewhat emotional post to write.  I think, however,…

Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part II: The All-Good Child

I finally decided to stop fooling around and powered through Christine Lawson’s book Understanding The Borderline Mother.  I have some odd ability to quickly absorb books like this.  I read 200 pages in three hours.  I feel raw after reading it, and the only…

Safe People

After my last post, I wanted to pause and discuss the idea of a safe person and what that means using Drs. Cloud and Townsend’s book Safe People.  On their website, Cloud and Townsend ask the question: What are safe people? This is a…

Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part I

I continually try to get away from the topic of borderline personality disorder on this blog, but I find that art is imitating life.  I can’t get away from it in my life either.  Why fight it? I’m going to try to make it…

Gaslighting and Distortion Campaigns

I want to talk about a specific topic–gaslighting.  What is gaslighting? Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse and/or psychological manipulation and intimidation wherein a person, the abuser, presents some kind of false information to the victim in an effort to manipulate perceptions and…

The Witch and Her Flying Monkey

I received a phone call this evening from my mother’s oldest friend, Deanna.  They have known each other since they were toddlers.  I really enjoy Deanna and her entire family, but this woman has never called me.  It’s her mother, Anna, who has always…

A Conclusion

I’ve discussed myriad topics on this blog ranging from community, body image issues, forgiveness, faith, PTSD, and recovery.  I’ve also discussed something called ‘differentiation’ although I haven’t called it that.  Essentially, the work I’ve been doing to extract myself from the toxic and abusive…