Tag: trauma

Deep Programming and Core Beliefs

I have discussed core beliefs on this blog (Core Beliefs and Double Distortions, Gridlock and Core Beliefs, Core Beliefs) .  After my “career” in therapy, I thought I’d covered all the ground until I landed on core beliefs.  I learned that after putting in… Continue Reading “Deep Programming and Core Beliefs”

The Buffer and Rat Park

I went to therapy on Tuesday with a migraine. I have to pause for a moment and talk about migraines, pain, and trauma.  Whenever I have mentioned the nightmare known as The Migraine on any blog, well-meaning people have offered helpful comments.  I certainly want… Continue Reading “The Buffer and Rat Park”

Core Beliefs and Double Distortions

I paused writing about therapy because I wasn’t sure where to start.  I wish I could have filmed one session.  It was that good.  Alas, I will start where I stopped–core beliefs. Between the breath work and the core beliefs work, recovery is moving… Continue Reading “Core Beliefs and Double Distortions”

Embrace the Process of Healing

“If I am not for myself, who is for me? And when I am for myself, what am I? And if not now, when?”— Hillel the Elder I’m 44 years-old, and I’ve been on the “therapy circuit” since I was 16.  As soon as… Continue Reading “Embrace the Process of Healing”

Gridlock and Core Beliefs

It’s taken me a few days to adequately internalize a more profound understanding of core beliefs.  The idea of challenging them doesn’t seem like enough to me.  I want to uproot them.  I want them outta here! How do I get that done? When… Continue Reading “Gridlock and Core Beliefs”

Core Beliefs

Okay, I’m going to get right into it.  How do you heal from trauma? From the profound shit that keeps you locked up inside yourself? Well, let’s talk about that because I finally hit the motherlode. Core beliefs.  F*cking core beliefs. What is a… Continue Reading “Core Beliefs”

Breathwork and Healing

It feels really weird, for lack of a better word, to write about trauma in such a personal way.  I prefer to write about it from the bird’s eye perspective.  Flying above the minefield.  It feels like it’s not personal anymore.  Like it happened in… Continue Reading “Breathwork and Healing”

Another Saturday Night

I was prepared to publish a completely different post, and perhaps I will.  But, as I was cleaning my kitchen, another thought came to mind. Why do so many people with deep trauma never reveal it even if much of it is adaptively processed?… Continue Reading “Another Saturday Night”

EMDR in Real Time

With all this talk about EMDR, I have been asked, “Yeah, but what is it? What do you do exactly?” That’s a question I would ask.  I would want to know.  “Trauma work” sounds ominous.  So, what does it look like? Let’s talk about… Continue Reading “EMDR in Real Time”

The Event Horizon

I had coffee with a friend tonight.  I think it was just supposed to be an easy “how’ve you been” sort of coffee, but that’s not what it was. How do I explain this? I have met few people in my life who experientially understand… Continue Reading “The Event Horizon”