Tag: trauma

Core Beliefs

Okay, I’m going to get right into it.  How do you heal from trauma? From the profound shit that keeps you locked up inside yourself? Well, let’s talk about that because I finally hit the motherlode. Core beliefs.  F*cking core beliefs. What is a…

Breathwork and Healing

It feels really weird, for lack of a better word, to write about trauma in such a personal way.  I prefer to write about it from the bird’s eye perspective.  Flying above the minefield.  It feels like it’s not personal anymore.  Like it happened in…

Another Saturday Night

I was prepared to publish a completely different post, and perhaps I will.  But, as I was cleaning my kitchen, another thought came to mind. Why do so many people with deep trauma never reveal it even if much of it is adaptively processed?…

EMDR in Real Time

With all this talk about EMDR, I have been asked, “Yeah, but what is it? What do you do exactly?” That’s a question I would ask.  I would want to know.  “Trauma work” sounds ominous.  So, what does it look like? Let’s talk about…

The Event Horizon

I had coffee with a friend tonight.  I think it was just supposed to be an easy “how’ve you been” sort of coffee, but that’s not what it was. How do I explain this? I have met few people in my life who experientially understand…

EMDR and You

Let’s talk about trauma for a moment.  I’ve mentioned EMDR in other posts, but let’s really discuss it for clarity’s sake. What is EMDR? “Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) is a therapeutic approach that emphasizes the brain’s intrinsic information processing system and how…

Post-Traumatic Stress…Disorder?

Eric Maisel proposed a few years ago that post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) isn’t actually a disorder nor should it be labeled as such.  It should just be termed post-traumatic stress response or something similar.  Others are starting to agree with him. Why? Well, if…

Saying No is Good

Saying ‘no’ is good.  I seem to rarely do it, but I’ve heard other people tell me this.  I am kidding.  Sort of. I really find out just how good saying ‘no’ is particularly when I said ‘yes’ but really wanted to say ‘no’.  Do you know…

Living in Color…Again

I wrote this post six years ago on this very blog.  I woke up this morning and thought that it might be worth re-posting just in case someone needed to read it: It is no secret that the past few weeks have been difficult….

Alexithymia and Attachment Style

A reader emailed me this morning with some very good information she’d found.  I’m going to share it (with her permission).  Two years ago, I wrote a post on alexithymia and marriage (Affective Deprivation Disorder and Alexithymia in Marriage), and I never thought about…

Getting Triggered: Healing from Trauma

I wasn’t sure who would read my previous post on the experience of getting triggered (Getting Triggered).  I can’t find much helpful information on it to be honest.  The online article from 1in6 from which I cited was actually one of the best articles I’ve…

Getting Triggered

I thought I might document what a triggered response looks like.  Why? Well, for a few reasons. I have PTSD of the long-term variety.  I wish it were acute, but it isn’t.  I can contain like a pro.  I can hide my emotional suffering…