Category: relationships
Posted on June 2, 2014
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I’ve stated that my daughter and I started a 25-week Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills group. There are five other teens in the group with their parents so it’s not a big group. Most of the kids seem to struggle with “target” behaviors on… Continue Reading “DBT 101”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, mental health, Recovery, relationships, therapyTags: bio-social theory, dialectical behavior therapy, distress tolerance, emotional regulation, interpersonal effectiveness, invalidating environment, mindfulness, self-validation, validation
Posted on April 15, 2014
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A few years ago I was privileged to spend time in the English countryside in the springtime. Honestly, it was like being dropped into a Beatrix Potter story except that she’s from the Lake District, and I was in Devon. If there is a… Continue Reading “Remembering A Life Well-Lived”
Posted on February 11, 2014
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I’m finally getting around to writing a follow-up post to Breaking The Mold. What are our options if we have confused our personae for our authentic identity? More than that, what if we can’t tell the difference and feel trapped in some sort of… Continue Reading “A False Perception of Self”
Category: abuse in families, anxiety, emotional abuse, God, Healing, mental health, Moving Forward, Recovery, relationshipsTags: dysfunctional relationships, low self-esteem, persona vs. identity, safe people, safe relationships, self-esteem
Posted on October 11, 2013
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As the title of this post might imply, I am now in possession of a workbook. I subscribe to Psychology Today, and September’s issue did a spread on Borderline Personality Disorder called “The Kings and Queens of Chaos”. The article on BPD was okay. It’s… Continue Reading “The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Cluster B personality disorders, mental health, relationships, therapyTags: anxiety, Borderline Personality Disorder, dialectical behavior therapy, distress tolerance, emotional regulation, interpersonal effectiveness, mindfulness, perseveration, personal development, The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Workbook
Posted on October 5, 2013
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We’ve all met one. No matter how much energy you pour into the relationship, be it professional, friendly, or familial, you somehow end up being the bad guy. It’s your fault! There wasn’t a problem until you pointed out the problem, therefore, YOU are… Continue Reading “The Professional Victim”
Posted on September 21, 2013
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I wanted to say something about speaking the truth. I have often found myself in conversations with people discussing personal circumstances that are gridlocked. Marriages are in turmoil. People feel unheard, invisible, and helpless. I’ve been in that situation. Or, perhaps it’s something familial.… Continue Reading “speak.”
Category: abuse in families, advocacy, Borderline Personality Disorder, Healing, mental health, Mothers, Moving Forward, PTSD, relationships, therapy, traits in victims, TruthTags: adult children of borderline parents, all-powerful perpetrator, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, healing process, learning to use your voice, overcoming victimization, personality disordered parents, PTSD, self-advocacy, telling the truth
Posted on September 10, 2013
by MJ
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I finally decided to stop fooling around and powered through Christine Lawson’s book Understanding The Borderline Mother. I have some odd ability to quickly absorb books like this. I read 200 pages in three hours. I feel raw after reading it, and the only… Continue Reading “Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part II: The All-Good Child”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, emotional abuse, Mothers, relationships, therapy, UncategorizedTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, importance of therapy, Messiah Complex, splitting, the all-good child of the borderline mother
Posted on July 27, 2013
by MJ
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After my last post, I wanted to pause and discuss the idea of a safe person and what that means using Drs. Cloud and Townsend’s book Safe People. On their website, Cloud and Townsend ask the question: What are safe people? This is a… Continue Reading “Safe People”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, emotional abuse, Healing, Jesus, Recovery, relationships, therapyTags: adult children of borderline parents, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, Drs. Cloud and Townsend, healing from past abuse, Jesus as template for safe person, safe people, safe relationships
Posted on November 21, 2011
by MJ
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When I was 22 years-old, I attended l’Université Paul Valéry in Montpellier, France. Montpellier is a city in southern France, west of Marseilles, quite near the Mediterranean Sea. Paul Valéry is one of the oldest universities in Europe. Montpellier is renowned the world over… Continue Reading “Living with The Tides”
Category: Faith, God, Grief, intimacy, Moving Forward, relationships, UncategorizedTags: Faith, God, grief, intimacy, Montpellier, Moses, relationships
Out of the Mire 