Category: traits in victims

The Great California Shenanigan

I returned from my two-week romp through Northern California Monday night with my three hyper-sensitive daughters in tow.  My phrasing might make it sound like I have ten daughters seven of whom have little to no requirement of my presence.  Well, that’s not true.… Continue Reading “The Great California Shenanigan”

Imposter Syndrome in Trauma Survivors

Here’s a story.  I’m sharing it because it might elucidate something for you.  I’ll open with a question. Have you ever felt something like a fear of discovery? Like if people found out who you really were, then they would abandon you because, deep… Continue Reading “Imposter Syndrome in Trauma Survivors”

Getting Triggered: Healing from Trauma

I wasn’t sure who would read my previous post on the experience of getting triggered (Getting Triggered).  I can’t find much helpful information on it to be honest.  The online article from 1in6 from which I cited was actually one of the best articles I’ve… Continue Reading “Getting Triggered: Healing from Trauma”

Overcoming a Sense of a Foreshortened Future

I have been thinking about this idea of The Reboot, which I wrote about in my previous post.  Clearly, I’m not entirely empty in my old noggin.  I had an actual thought and pondered it, too! Have I ever felt like this before in… Continue Reading “Overcoming a Sense of a Foreshortened Future”

An Assertiveness Serendipity

There must be a strange connection between my need for assertiveness practice and ordering drinks.  It’s always the drinks! I just wrote a post on assertiveness yesterday and how helpful grumpy baristas can be in our assertiveness practice; and, last night it happened again–the… Continue Reading “An Assertiveness Serendipity”

PTSD and DESNOS

Recovery is something I have talked about on this blog.  A lot.  If we have experienced an iota of abuse or trauma in our lives, then we will have to commit to the process of healing and recovery.  That’s life.  That’s how we clean… Continue Reading “PTSD and DESNOS”

speak.

I wanted to say something about speaking the truth. I have often found myself in conversations with people discussing personal circumstances that are gridlocked.  Marriages are in turmoil.  People feel unheard, invisible, and helpless.  I’ve been in that situation.  Or, perhaps it’s something familial.… Continue Reading “speak.”

How To Recognize A Mindf*ck

If it weren’t in such bad taste, I would post my mother’s latest letter and use it as an object lesson in “How To Recognize A Mindfuck”.  Excuse my language, but there’s no other way to put it.  Her entire letter was an exercise in gaslighting.  I’m… Continue Reading “How To Recognize A Mindf*ck”

A Conclusion

I’ve discussed myriad topics on this blog ranging from community, body image issues, forgiveness, faith, PTSD, and recovery.  I’ve also discussed something called ‘differentiation’ although I haven’t called it that.  Essentially, the work I’ve been doing to extract myself from the toxic and abusive… Continue Reading “A Conclusion”