Category: Recovery

DBT Assumptions

There is one core dialectic nestled in the DBT assumptions: People are doing the best they can, and people need to do better, try harder, and be more motivated to change. Here is the entire list of DBT assumptions: People are doing the best… Continue Reading “DBT Assumptions”

DBT 101

I’ve stated that my daughter and I started a 25-week Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills group.  There are five other teens in the group with their parents so it’s not a big group.  Most of the kids seem to struggle with “target” behaviors on… Continue Reading “DBT 101”

You are the Masterpiece

I recently spoke with a beloved friend experiencing emotional pain due to a family interaction.  Her sentiments were familiar.  This interaction was similar to an older one, and it brought forth latent feelings of ontological insignificance. “I don’t matter.” Isn’t this something we can… Continue Reading “You are the Masterpiece”

Anxiety, DBT, and The Dialectic

I have four daughters, and, for whatever reason, they are all susceptible to anxiety.  Studies have shown that people born with a smaller hippocampus in comparison to others tend to struggle with anxiety and a propensity to develop PTSD after trauma.  My husband has… Continue Reading “Anxiety, DBT, and The Dialectic”

Learning to Deal

In my last post, I talked about learning to make plans for yourself in the context of possessing a sense of a foreshortened future.  This can feel almost impossible if one has poor distress tolerance.  Distress tolerance is very important when it comes to… Continue Reading “Learning to Deal”

A False Perception of Self

I’m finally getting around to writing a follow-up post to Breaking The Mold.  What are our options if we have confused our personae for our authentic identity? More than that, what if we can’t tell the difference and feel trapped in some sort of… Continue Reading “A False Perception of Self”

Dealing with Dissociation

  I want to talk for a moment about dissociation.  There will come a moment in almost all our lives when we will check out.  A part of us will go away in order to cope with pain.  The human brain is very complex,… Continue Reading “Dealing with Dissociation”

Breaking The Mold

  I have never contacted an author for any reason.  Never because I’ve liked their material.  Never to complain.  Never because I was fan-girling over their latest novel or having a fit over how they wrote a character out of a storyline.  I am… Continue Reading “Breaking The Mold”

Being Your Authentic Self

I had a really weird social interaction yesterday.  I didn’t think I was going to write about it, but here I am, sitting in my bed in my pajamas under the down comforter, exhausted from the day, and my mind feels restless and preoccupied.… Continue Reading “Being Your Authentic Self”

The Box

Well, I decided to practice self-care so I met with a therapist.  I am inwardly groaning as I write this out because therapy almost feels like a career for me.  I should have an honorary PhD in going to therapy.  It has taken a… Continue Reading “The Box”