Out of the Mire
…because thriving is the goal
Category: Healing
How to Grow Up Again
I walked into my therapist’s office in March 2015 with a mind to figure out what was wrong with my marriage and, thereby, me. I told him that I knew something was happening to me that was probably not good, but, seeing that I… Continue Reading “How to Grow Up Again”
Claude and Me
I don’t know about you, but I don’t like people knowing about my deeper, darker trauma history. I don’t like people knowing that I ultimately ended my marriage because of domestic violence. It goes without saying that I don’t like people knowing that I… Continue Reading “Claude and Me”
The Betrayal of Disengagement: Reloaded
I wrote this post for another blog a little over a year ago, but I want to post it here, too, because I continue to get comments on this post–Affective Deprivation Disorder and Alexithymia in Marriage. Out of hundreds of posts, that post is… Continue Reading “The Betrayal of Disengagement: Reloaded”
The Trust Fall
I’ve written here before that I have migraines–chronic migraines. Whenever a therapist gets wind of that, they always make some version of this face: Last week, I was doing the deep dive into some very old “stuff” with my therapist. I leaned over and… Continue Reading “The Trust Fall”
Changing Your Mind
Does hope ever turn into something unhelpful? Something bad? In my experience, I would say that it certainly can. You can’t live without hope, but a misplaced hope can steal your life. The Tanakh says that hope deferred makes the heart sick. Continually hoping… Continue Reading “Changing Your Mind”
Between Blame and Uncertainty
I learned something new this week. Well, I should say that I relearned something old, and it resonated as if it were new. It’s worth sharing. There is a phenomenon that almost everyone seems to experience, at some point, after surviving something bad that… Continue Reading “Between Blame and Uncertainty”
The Essence of Healing
I wanted to write something germane to your life and process. Something that might speak to you. To anyone. To everyone. Perhaps this might. I go to therapy every Tuesday. I like to think that I’m ‘getting it done’ whatever ‘it’ is, but, as… Continue Reading “The Essence of Healing”
Profound Trauma and EMDR
I have been writing about EMDR and the process of therapy for a few reasons. I often tell people that therapy is good. Go to therapy! But then I’m met with this common response: “Why?” That’s legit. Why indeed. Providing documentation of the actual… Continue Reading “Profound Trauma and EMDR”
Imposter Syndrome in Trauma Survivors
Here’s a story. I’m sharing it because it might elucidate something for you. I’ll open with a question. Have you ever felt something like a fear of discovery? Like if people found out who you really were, then they would abandon you because, deep… Continue Reading “Imposter Syndrome in Trauma Survivors”
Deep Programming and Core Beliefs
I have discussed core beliefs on this blog (Core Beliefs and Double Distortions, Gridlock and Core Beliefs, Core Beliefs) . After my “career” in therapy, I thought I’d covered all the ground until I landed on core beliefs. I learned that after putting in… Continue Reading “Deep Programming and Core Beliefs”
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