Category: therapy
Posted on December 29, 2013
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I had a really weird social interaction yesterday. I didn’t think I was going to write about it, but here I am, sitting in my bed in my pajamas under the down comforter, exhausted from the day, and my mind feels restless and preoccupied.… Continue Reading “Being Your Authentic Self”
Category: Christianity, encouragement, Faith, God, Healing, Jesus, Moving Forward, Recovery, therapy, TruthTags: authentic self, Christianity, false self, God, healing process, performance-based Christianity, persona
Posted on November 22, 2013
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I feel it’s time to continue discussing DBT and what it looks like to use the tools that it has to offer. I’ve discussed the topics of Gnosticism and logical fallacies in an attempt to explore two of the primary road blocks why Christians… Continue Reading “Distress Tolerance and Radical Acceptance”
Posted on November 12, 2013
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I was at my therapist yesterday for another session. We did not do EMDR. Instead we spoke more about the protective emotions. Just like on Sesame Street, the word of the day was DISGUST. What does disgust look like in the world to me?… Continue Reading “Logical Fallacies”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, encouragement, Evangelical church, God, Healing, mental health, therapy, TruthTags: adult children of borderline parents, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, denial, God, importance of therapy, logical fallacies, sexual abuse, sexuality, truth
Posted on October 24, 2013
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As much as I find therapy helpful, I process my life differently most of the time. I always have. Sometimes I want to describe myself as a theist. It’s easier because the term “Christian” or Jewish means different things to different people. To some… Continue Reading “Making Choices”
Category: Christianity, Evangelical church, God, mental health, prayer, therapyTags: choosing vs. repenting, Christianity, cognitive distortions, God, magical thinking, personal God, personal responsibility, secular humanism
Posted on October 20, 2013
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I wasn’t going to write about this, but I thought perhaps I might in an effort to show what continued work looks like. As I’ve said, I decided to go back to therapy to make sure that I was contained. After my mother’s repeated… Continue Reading “Practicing The Skills”
Category: abuse in families, mental health, Mothers, Sexual Abuse, therapyTags: containment, dialectical behavior therapy, distress tolerance, mindfulness, sexual abuse, The Box, The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Workbook, triggers
Posted on October 11, 2013
by MJ
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As the title of this post might imply, I am now in possession of a workbook. I subscribe to Psychology Today, and September’s issue did a spread on Borderline Personality Disorder called “The Kings and Queens of Chaos”. The article on BPD was okay. It’s… Continue Reading “The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Cluster B personality disorders, mental health, relationships, therapyTags: anxiety, Borderline Personality Disorder, dialectical behavior therapy, distress tolerance, emotional regulation, interpersonal effectiveness, mindfulness, perseveration, personal development, The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Workbook
Posted on October 9, 2013
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I spent time with a friend today. The weather is beautiful here right now. Autumnal perfection. It’s easy to sink into contemplation when straddling seasons. It feels a bit like summer but not quite. The bright, red Maple leaves announce the coming fall temperatures.… Continue Reading “One Question”
Category: Christianity, Faith, God, Healing, Jesus, mental health, Moving Forward, Redemption, therapyTags: authenticity in faith, Christianity, Faith, God, healing process, Jesus, man by the pool of Bethesda, reconciliation, Recovery, relational Christianity
Posted on October 8, 2013
by MJ
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I decided to practice self-care so I met with a therapist. This is what this new therapist has observed. The “cognitive stuff” is done. I know what is true, and I know how to apply it. That feels like a huge victory. What isn’t… Continue Reading “The Box”
Category: anxiety, mental health, PTSD, Recovery, therapyTags: anxiety, anxiety in children, coping strategies, EMDR, perseveration, Recovery, The Box, therapy, trauma, triggers
Posted on September 21, 2013
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I wanted to say something about speaking the truth. I have often found myself in conversations with people discussing personal circumstances that are gridlocked. Marriages are in turmoil. People feel unheard, invisible, and helpless. I’ve been in that situation. Or, perhaps it’s something familial.… Continue Reading “speak.”
Category: abuse in families, advocacy, Borderline Personality Disorder, Healing, mental health, Mothers, Moving Forward, PTSD, relationships, therapy, traits in victims, TruthTags: adult children of borderline parents, all-powerful perpetrator, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, healing process, learning to use your voice, overcoming victimization, personality disordered parents, PTSD, self-advocacy, telling the truth
Posted on September 11, 2013
by MJ
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As promised, here is the other side of the coin regarding “Make-Believe Children”–the no-good child. Yesterday, I wrote a rather lengthy post describing the all-good child, and I found it to be a rather educational and somewhat emotional post to write. I think, however,… Continue Reading “Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part III: The No-Good Child”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, emotional abuse, mental health, Mothers, Rage, therapyTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, characteristic of no-good children, folie a deux, messages to no-good children, no-good child of borderline mothers