Out of the Mire
…because thriving is the goal
Tag: healing process
The Holiday Revisited
My daughters and I did something a bit unusual for us yesterday. For the first time in my life and henceforth theirs, we did not celebrate Christmas Eve. When I was married, our family was interfaith in terms of family tradition, and my family… Continue Reading “The Holiday Revisited”
Maybe C is for Catalyst
I want to talk about how finding out what motivates you can lead to personal liberation. To do that, I will take you back to my junior year of college. I was something of a fresh-faced know-it-all with something to prove. I didn’t really… Continue Reading “Maybe C is for Catalyst”
Making Changes on Purpose
I saw Jack, my still-feeling-new therapist, on Tuesday, and we had an almost adversarial session. It didn’t feel therapeutic to me. I felt as if I were there to challenge his ideas and assumptions of what survivors of trauma look like. He consistently says,… Continue Reading “Making Changes on Purpose”
The Prison of Maladaptive Behaviors
I am an independent person by nature. I was an only child until my mother remarried when I was 11 years-old suddenly making me the youngest of three girls. My developing personality came to a grinding halt. I didn’t know my place in my… Continue Reading “The Prison of Maladaptive Behaviors”
The Significance of Being Seen
After almost a year of grad school perhaps one might expect to feel like this: Sometimes, however, I swear the doctors are looking at me like this ::cough::Dr. Hong::cough:: I suppose it goes with the territory. Humility and feeling completely inadequate are better traits… Continue Reading “The Significance of Being Seen”
Claude and Me
I don’t know about you, but I don’t like people knowing about my deeper, darker trauma history. I don’t like people knowing that I ultimately ended my marriage because of domestic violence. It goes without saying that I don’t like people knowing that I… Continue Reading “Claude and Me”
The Trust Fall
I’ve written here before that I have migraines–chronic migraines. Whenever a therapist gets wind of that, they always make some version of this face: Last week, I was doing the deep dive into some very old “stuff” with my therapist. I leaned over and… Continue Reading “The Trust Fall”
The Essence of Healing
I wanted to write something germane to your life and process. Something that might speak to you. To anyone. To everyone. Perhaps this might. I go to therapy every Tuesday. I like to think that I’m ‘getting it done’ whatever ‘it’ is, but, as… Continue Reading “The Essence of Healing”
Profound Trauma and EMDR
I have been writing about EMDR and the process of therapy for a few reasons. I often tell people that therapy is good. Go to therapy! But then I’m met with this common response: “Why?” That’s legit. Why indeed. Providing documentation of the actual… Continue Reading “Profound Trauma and EMDR”
Imposter Syndrome in Trauma Survivors
Here’s a story. I’m sharing it because it might elucidate something for you. I’ll open with a question. Have you ever felt something like a fear of discovery? Like if people found out who you really were, then they would abandon you because, deep… Continue Reading “Imposter Syndrome in Trauma Survivors”
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