Out of the Mire
…because thriving is the goal
Category: abuse in families
The Cycle of Domestic Abuse
I have found myself reading a few blogs that discuss spousal behaviors wherein a spouse engages in good behavior after being abusive. One could try to understand and list a plethora of reasons in an attempt to explain this behavior, but I would rather… Continue Reading “The Cycle of Domestic Abuse”
The Four Elements of Asshole Behavior
I saw my therapist for the second time yesterday, and we went over the four basic concepts that explain a person’s behavior: skills deficit emotions thoughts and beliefs contingency In the context of my marriage, I am attempting to lay down a history which is,… Continue Reading “The Four Elements of Asshole Behavior”
The Resiliency Spectrum
I can’t believe that it’s been a month since my last post. I don’t usually neglect my blog for such a long time, but life is changing chez moi. I like to write posts that will, at a minimum, be interesting to read and, if… Continue Reading “The Resiliency Spectrum”
Magical Thinking
I have learned something about getting on with life. There’s no easy way to do it, and there’s no good time to do it. What’s more, there is absolutely no pain-free way to do it either. Hollywood has played a bigger role in our… Continue Reading “Magical Thinking”
The Burden of WHY
I feel compelled to write this out, but I want to write it carefully. I don’t want to trigger anyone. I don’t often write explicitly about my past sexual abuse largely because I identify less and less with it. I have aggressively and relentlessly… Continue Reading “The Burden of WHY”
Affective Deprivation Disorder and Alexithymia in Marriage
I have written somewhere in here that my marriage has been difficult. If you’re married for nearly two decades, then I think, at some point, there will come hard relational times. It’s inevitable and normal. I am someone who doesn’t like to put up… Continue Reading “Affective Deprivation Disorder and Alexithymia in Marriage”
A Plea
Somewhere in the annals of this blog I’m sure I’ve posted on the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. I feel quite certain that most people who know me have heard me yammer on about that, and yet a plethora of Christians and even non-Christians… Continue Reading “A Plea”
Abandoning the Self
I live in Minnesota. I overheard someone say once that we work for our seasons. That’s an oddly funny thing to say, but, if you live here, then you’ll understand the meaning in that sentiment. As a seasonal change approaches, the current weather patterns… Continue Reading “Abandoning the Self”
PTSD and DESNOS
Recovery is something I have talked about on this blog. A lot. If we have experienced an iota of abuse or trauma in our lives, then we will have to commit to the process of healing and recovery. That’s life. That’s how we clean… Continue Reading “PTSD and DESNOS”
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