Category: Mothers
Posted on October 20, 2013
by MJ
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I wasn’t going to write about this, but I thought perhaps I might in an effort to show what continued work looks like. As I’ve said, I decided to go back to therapy to make sure that I was contained. After my mother’s repeated… Continue Reading “Practicing The Skills”
Category: abuse in families, mental health, Mothers, Sexual Abuse, therapyTags: containment, dialectical behavior therapy, distress tolerance, mindfulness, sexual abuse, The Box, The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Workbook, triggers
Posted on September 30, 2013
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An aptly named post, I think, as it’s beginning to feel like a soap opera over here. I just need a guy named Dirk to move in next door, and my neighbors across the street to start throwing down outside. But, hey, we did… Continue Reading “The God Card”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, Evangelical church, forgiveness, God, Healing, Jesus, MothersTags: accountability in relationships, adult children of borderline parents, Borderline Personality Disorder, boundaries, forgiveness vs. reconciliation, manipulation in relationships, performance-based Christianity, relational Christianity, spiritual abuse, the God card
Posted on September 21, 2013
by MJ
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I wanted to say something about speaking the truth. I have often found myself in conversations with people discussing personal circumstances that are gridlocked. Marriages are in turmoil. People feel unheard, invisible, and helpless. I’ve been in that situation. Or, perhaps it’s something familial.… Continue Reading “speak.”
Category: abuse in families, advocacy, Borderline Personality Disorder, Healing, mental health, Mothers, Moving Forward, PTSD, relationships, therapy, traits in victims, TruthTags: adult children of borderline parents, all-powerful perpetrator, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, healing process, learning to use your voice, overcoming victimization, personality disordered parents, PTSD, self-advocacy, telling the truth
Posted on September 16, 2013
by MJ
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If it weren’t in such bad taste, I would post my mother’s latest letter and use it as an object lesson in “How To Recognize A Mindfuck”. Excuse my language, but there’s no other way to put it. Her entire letter was an exercise in gaslighting. I’m… Continue Reading “How To Recognize A Mindf*ck”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Denial, emotional abuse, Healing, mental health, Mothers, traits in victimsTags: abuse, adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, gaslighting, the queen, the Waif, the witch
Posted on September 11, 2013
by MJ
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As promised, here is the other side of the coin regarding “Make-Believe Children”–the no-good child. Yesterday, I wrote a rather lengthy post describing the all-good child, and I found it to be a rather educational and somewhat emotional post to write. I think, however,… Continue Reading “Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part III: The No-Good Child”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, emotional abuse, mental health, Mothers, Rage, therapyTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, characteristic of no-good children, folie a deux, messages to no-good children, no-good child of borderline mothers
Posted on September 10, 2013
by MJ
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I finally decided to stop fooling around and powered through Christine Lawson’s book Understanding The Borderline Mother. I have some odd ability to quickly absorb books like this. I read 200 pages in three hours. I feel raw after reading it, and the only… Continue Reading “Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part II: The All-Good Child”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, emotional abuse, Mothers, relationships, therapy, UncategorizedTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, importance of therapy, Messiah Complex, splitting, the all-good child of the borderline mother
Posted on July 23, 2013
by MJ
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I continually try to get away from the topic of borderline personality disorder on this blog, but I find that art is imitating life. I can’t get away from it in my life either. Why fight it? I’m going to try to make it… Continue Reading “Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part I”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, emotional abuse, Healing, Mothers, PTSD, RecoveryTags: abuse, borderline mother, Borderline Personality Disorder, borderline types, boundaries, Christine Lawson, mothers, PTSD, Recovery, trauma
Posted on March 6, 2012
by MJ
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It’s done. After weeks of deliberation, writing, re-writing, editing, praying, procrastinating, and, yes, even fasting, I have sent my mother my final words and the book Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified. My original letter to her was thirteen pages long. Yeah, that’s too long. I,… Continue Reading “It Is Finished”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Faith, Healing, Mothers, Moving Forward, UncategorizedTags: at a crossroad, Borderline Personality Disorder, Cockington Gardens, cutting off a parent, Faith, healing, mothers, moving forward, Yellowstone National Park
Posted on July 15, 2011
by MJ
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It’s been one helluva week so I’m just going to “let go” for a moment. I figure I can do that since it’s my blog after all. I wish my mother would disappear over the event horizon of a black hole, hence, permanent deletion… Continue Reading “Borderlines, Sociopaths, PTSD, and Peace”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, Complex PTSD, Denial, Fathers, Mothers, PTSD, UncategorizedTags: Antisocial Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, boundaries, Christianity, Complex PTSD, denial, mothers, neural networks, peace, PTSD, sociopathy, therapy
Posted on July 8, 2010
by MJ
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While the truth is necessary for our forward movement it also hurts. For many of us, our relationships with our mothers need the most truth and are also the source of most our pain in life particularly if there is abuse. Applying truth, boundaries, and learning to stand our ground can be especially helpful as we grieve our losses in close family relationships.
Category: 12 Steps, Borderline Personality Disorder, Denial, Mothers, Recovery, Sexual Abuse, TruthTags: Borderline Personality Disorder, boundaries, divorce, grief, mothers, self-loathing, spiritual abuse, therapy, thriving
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