Category: Mothers
Posted on September 30, 2013
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An aptly named post, I think, as it’s beginning to feel like a soap opera over here. I just need a guy named Dirk to move in next door, and my neighbors across the street to start throwing down outside. But, hey, we did…
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, Evangelical church, forgiveness, God, Healing, Jesus, MothersTags: accountability in relationships, adult children of borderline parents, Borderline Personality Disorder, boundaries, forgiveness vs. reconciliation, manipulation in relationships, performance-based Christianity, relational Christianity, spiritual abuse, the God card
Posted on September 21, 2013
by MJ
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I wanted to say something about speaking the truth. I have often found myself in conversations with people discussing personal circumstances that are gridlocked. Marriages are in turmoil. People feel unheard, invisible, and helpless. I’ve been in that situation. Or, perhaps it’s something familial….
Category: abuse in families, advocacy, Borderline Personality Disorder, Healing, mental health, Mothers, Moving Forward, PTSD, relationships, therapy, traits in victims, TruthTags: adult children of borderline parents, all-powerful perpetrator, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, healing process, learning to use your voice, overcoming victimization, personality disordered parents, PTSD, self-advocacy, telling the truth
Posted on September 16, 2013
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If it weren’t in such bad taste, I would post my mother’s latest letter and use it as an object lesson in “How To Recognize A Mindfuck”. Excuse my language, but there’s no other way to put it. Her entire letter was an exercise in gaslighting. I’m…
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Denial, emotional abuse, Healing, mental health, Mothers, traits in victimsTags: abuse, adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, gaslighting, the queen, the Waif, the witch
Posted on September 11, 2013
by MJ
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As promised, here is the other side of the coin regarding “Make-Believe Children”–the no-good child. Yesterday, I wrote a rather lengthy post describing the all-good child, and I found it to be a rather educational and somewhat emotional post to write. I think, however,…
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, emotional abuse, mental health, Mothers, Rage, therapyTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, characteristic of no-good children, folie a deux, messages to no-good children, no-good child of borderline mothers
Posted on September 10, 2013
by MJ
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I finally decided to stop fooling around and powered through Christine Lawson’s book Understanding The Borderline Mother. I have some odd ability to quickly absorb books like this. I read 200 pages in three hours. I feel raw after reading it, and the only…
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, emotional abuse, Mothers, relationships, therapy, UncategorizedTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, importance of therapy, Messiah Complex, splitting, the all-good child of the borderline mother
Posted on July 23, 2013
by MJ
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I continually try to get away from the topic of borderline personality disorder on this blog, but I find that art is imitating life. I can’t get away from it in my life either. Why fight it? I’m going to try to make it…
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, emotional abuse, Healing, Mothers, PTSD, RecoveryTags: abuse, borderline mother, Borderline Personality Disorder, borderline types, boundaries, Christine Lawson, mothers, PTSD, Recovery, trauma
Posted on March 6, 2012
by MJ
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It’s done. After weeks of deliberation, writing, re-writing, editing, praying, procrastinating, and, yes, even fasting, I have sent my mother my final words and the book Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified. My original letter to her was thirteen pages long. Yeah, that’s too long. I,…
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Faith, Healing, Mothers, Moving Forward, UncategorizedTags: at a crossroad, Borderline Personality Disorder, Cockington Gardens, cutting off a parent, Faith, healing, mothers, moving forward, Yellowstone National Park
Posted on January 11, 2012
by MJ
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Is “surreal” an emotion? May I take apart this word–sur réalité or sur réalisme? Taken from the French, it literally means ‘on reality’ or ‘on top of realism’. The sense is that one is floating above the weightiness of the solid world. One has…
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Healing, Mothers, Sadistic Personality Disorder, therapy, UncategorizedTags: Borderline Personality Disorder, God, healing, Muppets, sadistic personality disorder, therapy
Posted on December 23, 2011
by MJ
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Where do I begin? At the beginning? I can’t even find the beginning. The beginning of this day? It was snowing. We finally got a bit of snow. It started to feel seasonal. Christmas is approaching. My girls were frolicking in the flurries. We…
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Mothers, panic attacks, Rage, UncategorizedTags: abuse, Borderline Personality Disorder, mothers, panic, snow white, suicide attempts, the queen, the witch
Posted on December 20, 2011
by MJ
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My mother was adopted when she was about 6 months-old. The story goes like this: My grandparents were walking through the orphanage when they came upon my mother. She was sitting in a crib. She looked up at my grandfather with big, blue eyes,…
